Just Be YOU!

Here’s something we need to remember:

Be yourself, your authentic self, no matter the circumstance or situation. The more you try to protect, defend, prove, or explain yourself, the farther you drift from authentic confidence, in short, the less “you” you become.  If someone does not want to accept you, no sales job is sufficient, and if someone accepts you, no sales job is necessary. Likewise, if someone wants to keep you guilty, no apology is acceptable, and if someone is willing to love you, no apology is necessary.

Just be YOU!

PS. No apology necessary, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t 🙂

Harmonious Relationships

“When two or more persons ally themselves in any undertaking, in a spirit of harmony and understanding, each person in the alliance thereby multiplies his own powers of achievement. Nowhere is this principle more evidenced than it is in an industry or business in which there is perfect team-work between the employer and the employees. Wherever you find this team-work you find prosperity and goodwill on both sides.”

Hill, Napolean. The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons.

Profound words, Napolean Hill may have used it in terms of business, but it is clear that it is true in every single relationship that you have, had or will ever have. The second a relationship stops being harmonious and misunderstanding shows up , is the very second that relationship starts heading toward to failure-ville.

It is with this in mind that we should seek to be in harmonious relationships and remove ourselves from those that aren’t. If there is not true alliance, the relationship WILL NOT work, no matter how you pretend! Let go of relationships that aren’t working, and I do mean ALL relationships that aren’t working.  No matter who the relationship is with, let it go if it is not harmonious.  It may not be easy to do but if you want to be successful at anything, you need harmonious relationships.

Relationships that are not built in or on harmony saps each participants energy.

So take a look at all your relationships, which of them aren’t harmonious and you need to let go of? The very second you identify them, start shedding them!

This will open up room for the harmonious ones, which will then help you in your achievements!

Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC, CWLC

Eliminate “Impossible”

Let’s resolve today to eliminate the word “impossible” from our vocabulary.  Nothing is impossible and we have seen it proven time and time again. There was a time when flying was “impossible” and now it is common place. All you have to do is believe and it will be possible. Like in the movie “Field of Dreams”, build it and they will come, well, believe it and it will be possible.

Your faith, especially in yourself, and working with this faith, you can achieve anything, hands down! No holds barred!

So do away with impossible, it no longer exists!  All things are POSSIBLE!

You’ve got to accentuate the positive

You’ve got to accentuate the positive

Eliminate the negative

And latch on to the affirmative

Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum

Bring gloom down to the minimum

Have faith or pandemonium’s

Liable to walk upon the scene

Excerpt from a song : AC-CENT-TCHU-ATE THE POSITIVE lyrics by Johnny Mercer

Click to listen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUdFIPknB_Y&feature=related

I love this song! Words to live by.

Too many times we do the opposite, we spend time focusing on the negative, which gets us absolutely nowhere, but stuck right where we are.

No matter how challenging a situation may seem, take the time to find the good in it. Like the song says ” Have faith or pandemonium’s liable to walk upon the scene”.

So let’s stop today, regroup and focus on the positives in our lives and see how we feel. I can guarantee it will be a much more joy-filled day than if we did the opposite. And remember “Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”.

Have yourselves a positively, affirmative day!

Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC, CWLC

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Friends

We have a habit of not taking people as they are but rather as they fit or don’t fit of our standards and expectations. Then we either reject them outright or we try to change them or make them over to suit our concept of what we think they should be. This gives rise to the a warped idea of “making friends”. Normally people think a friend is one who agrees with you or one who you have converted to your way, and the friendship lasts as long as he or she remains converted. But in truth, you cannot make a friend, you can only accept a friend.

First, no matter who the person may be, accept him or her as a person. The person may not be like you and may not like you. Let him or her be! You may not agree with the standards by which the person lives and works. But they are not necessarily wrong because they are different. Be willing to accept that he or she is in the flow of the creative process within. By so doing, you will stay in the awareness of the flow expressing in you and as you.

Second you need to resolve your own ego-blocked flow of love, releasing a radiant stream of forgiveness  and compassion, then you can look upon the other person with a view that says, “I know that you are not really aware of what you have done to me or even what you are doing to yourself. I bless you and see you in a flow of love that may provide a whole new kind of environment where you can relax your hostility and unblock your own frustrated flow of love… ” or something along those lines.

You may ask, what if this doesn’t work for you, well that does not mean you engage in self-destructive bitterness or anger or worry or fear. To get along in the world or with the world, you must stay in the flow of life. Sometimes the best way to get along with people is to get along without them. Let go…and walk on…

Paraphrased from “The Art of Getting Along” by Eric Butterworth

 

Your Authentic Self

Stop wearing the masks, stop defining yourself to everyone and especially yourself and stop letting others define you. You will actually start living the minute you stop doing that. Too many of us spend our lives living the way others think we should live/be. It is very tiring because everybody has their own opinion of how you should live/be. So to please these people you have to keep changing the masks.

Don’t get hung up on how people define you because when they define you, they are limiting themselves and that is their problem, not yours. But if you accept their definition of you then you are limiting yourself. So when you are interacting with others, take off the masks or don’t put on any, stop the role playing and be your true authentic self. When we wear masks and play roles we are saying who we are, is not good enough!

Today let’s take of the masks, stop playing the roles, let our true selves shine! Be your authentic self!

Think Positive!

Any idea that is deliberately fixed in the mind, or any idea that is permitted to set itself up in the mind, as the result of suggestion, environment, the influence of associates, etc., is sure to cause us to indulge in acts which conform to the nature of the idea.

——– Hill, Napolean. The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons

In other words,  law of attraction. Whatsoever you focus on multiplies, is what I always say. So whatever you are in the habit of thinking and talking about with materialize in different ways, shape and/or form.

So let us form the habit of thinking and talking about that which is positive and beneficial to us. For instance, instead of thinking and speaking lack and poverty, let us focus on prosperity and abundance, and very soon evidence of these things will manifest themselves in the form of new and unexpected opportunities.

Change for you

It is natural when you have made changes in your life, which helped you, that you would want your partner to do the same. You should never try to force others to change; leave them. Let them change naturally and orderly because they want to; and they will want to when they see that your change was worthwhile.

So change for you, change because you see the need and want to. Don’t ever change for someone else, that kind change will never last. Understand that when you make changes in your life, you will be  inspiration to others. Some may follow right away, some may take a while, and some may never but that isn’t your concern. Your concern is how your changes affect you.

“To inspire in others a desire to change for the better is truly noble; but this you can do only by leaving them alone, and becoming more noble yourself.” —–Christian D. Larson, “Mastery of Self”

8 tips to boost your self-esteem

Here are eight tips to help boost your Self-esteem:

1. Make a self-appreciation list

Write a list of at least five (5) of your top qualities, the more the merrier. I know some of you can find millions of ways to criticize yourselves, so I want you to take the time to look for the good in you. These things make you unique. Carry the list around with you every day and read them to remind yourself what makes you special.

2. Make a list of past successes

Think about the times in your life when you have been successful at something, no matter if it seems insignificant. Write a list of all of these and remind yourself how you did them and how great it felt when you achieved your goals. Use these experiences to fuel your self-belief and confidence for achieving your goals in the future.

3. Don’t put yourself down

Take the time to tally how many times you speak negatively about yourself. This will help to ensure that you become aware of how many times a day you are telling people or yourself that you aren’t good enough or any good. This is a real eye-opener! Try it! It will help to reduce the frequency of negative dialogue.

4. Choose positive role models

We can help ourselves by looking at others in a constructive and positive way rather than negatively comparing ourselves with them. Look at others with a glowing self-confidence and notice their characteristics. Pick up words and body language that they use and add them to your own repertoire.

5. Accept compliments

Being able to accept, believe, and feel good about compliments is crucial to cultivating a high level of self-confidence. The best way to accept compliments is to look the person in the face, smile and say ‘thank-you’. This will in turn also make them feel good. Looking embarrassed or looking down at your feet and feeling uncomfortable will also make the person giving the compliment uncomfortable – no-one wins in that situation!

6. Positive affirmations

Using positive affirmations every day is really effective as you’re talking to your subconscious where all your negative thoughts are stored. Pick three strong statements, which literally make a negative self-belief into a positive one. For example, if you believe you’re not a confident person then ‘I am a confident person’ should be one of your daily positive affirmations. Say your positive affirmations out loud while looking in the mirror as this makes them stronger because you’re connecting with yourself.

7. Constructive self-talk

We all have an irrational and rational voice. Use constructive questioning on yourself to ensure the irrational voice gets less airtime than the rational voice. Keep practicing this, as it will give you an overwhelming sense of control over your negative inner voice, which is invaluable in many situations in life.

8. Take care of yourself

Take time out to nurture yourself. Eat well and drink less alcohol. Go to sleep early and exercise. Take breaks. This indicates to yourself that you are worthy of being cared for. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself and to be taken care of!

Use the eight tips and your self-esteem will skyrocket!

—–Adapted

You cannot hit a target you never set

I was in the airport the other day and saw this slogan: You cannot hit a target you never set. And it hit me (no pun intended) that how true this is about our goals.

In a previous post Commit I wrote about setting and committing to achieving goals. You have to plan the work and then work then plan. But first, let your goals be yours! Not what others approve of or how it looks, let it be solely yours. Do it because it makes you feel good! Do it because it is what you are passionate about.

Targets/goals that are not based on you but some outside influence (such as how it looks to others) can be achieved but fulfillment are short-lived if it comes at all.

You can accomplish whatsoever you put your mind and heart to, because you have the Power within you. When you are divinely inspired, you will find strength and resolve to hit your target.

Let us now set our targets, take our bows and aim those arrows, pull back and then let them fly!

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