Pain means you are going off course,
Joy means you are on course.
These are the needles on your inner compass!
Normally when a part of your body hurts, you usually stop what ever is causing the pain and/or remove the source of the pain, don’t you? And anything that is pleasurable we usually keep on doing it.
Well, same goes for your life.
If you are currently doing something or in something that is causing you pain, i.e. it is not bringing you joy, that is your inner compass warning you that you are off course.
So listen to your inner compass (your instincts) and let it point you to your joy and away from the pain!
Here’s something we need to remember:
Be yourself, your authentic self, no matter the circumstance or situation. The more you try to protect, defend, prove, or explain yourself, the farther you drift from authentic confidence, in short, the less “you” you become. If someone does not want to accept you, no sales job is sufficient, and if someone accepts you, no sales job is necessary. Likewise, if someone wants to keep you guilty, no apology is acceptable, and if someone is willing to love you, no apology is necessary.
Just be YOU!
PS. No apology necessary, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t 🙂
“When two or more persons ally themselves in any undertaking, in a spirit of harmony and understanding, each person in the alliance thereby multiplies his own powers of achievement. Nowhere is this principle more evidenced than it is in an industry or business in which there is perfect team-work between the employer and the employees. Wherever you find this team-work you find prosperity and goodwill on both sides.”
Hill, Napolean. The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons.
Profound words, Napolean Hill may have used it in terms of business, but it is clear that it is true in every single relationship that you have, had or will ever have. The second a relationship stops being harmonious and misunderstanding shows up , is the very second that relationship starts heading toward to failure-ville.
It is with this in mind that we should seek to be in harmonious relationships and remove ourselves from those that aren’t. If there is not true alliance, the relationship WILL NOT work, no matter how you pretend! Let go of relationships that aren’t working, and I do mean ALL relationships that aren’t working. No matter who the relationship is with, let it go if it is not harmonious. It may not be easy to do but if you want to be successful at anything, you need harmonious relationships.
Relationships that are not built in or on harmony saps each participants energy.
So take a look at all your relationships, which of them aren’t harmonious and you need to let go of? The very second you identify them, start shedding them!
This will open up room for the harmonious ones, which will then help you in your achievements!
Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC
Let’s resolve today to eliminate the word “impossible” from our vocabulary. Nothing is impossible and we have seen it proven time and time again. There was a time when flying was “impossible” and now it is common place. All you have to do is believe and it will be possible. Like in the movie “Field of Dreams”, build it and they will come, well, believe it and it will be possible.
Your faith, especially in yourself, and working with this faith, you can achieve anything, hands down! No holds barred!
So do away with impossible, it no longer exists! All things are POSSIBLE!
You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between
You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
Have faith or pandemonium’s
Liable to walk upon the scene
Excerpt from a song : AC-CENT-TCHU-ATE THE POSITIVE lyrics by Johnny Mercer
Click to listen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUdFIPknB_Y&feature=related
I love this song! Words to live by.
Too many times we do the opposite, we spend time focusing on the negative, which gets us absolutely nowhere, but stuck right where we are.
No matter how challenging a situation may seem, take the time to find the good in it. Like the song says ” Have faith or pandemonium’s liable to walk upon the scene”.
So let’s stop today, regroup and focus on the positives in our lives and see how we feel. I can guarantee it will be a much more joy-filled day than if we did the opposite. And remember “Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”.
Have yourselves a positively, affirmative day!
Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC, CWLC
We have a habit of not taking people as they are but rather as they fit or don’t fit of our standards and expectations. Then we either reject them outright or we try to change them or make them over to suit our concept of what we think they should be. This gives rise to the a warped idea of “making friends”. Normally people think a friend is one who agrees with you or one who you have converted to your way, and the friendship lasts as long as he or she remains converted. But in truth, you cannot make a friend, you can only accept a friend.
First, no matter who the person may be, accept him or her as a person. The person may not be like you and may not like you. Let him or her be! You may not agree with the standards by which the person lives and works. But they are not necessarily wrong because they are different. Be willing to accept that he or she is in the flow of the creative process within. By so doing, you will stay in the awareness of the flow expressing in you and as you.
Second you need to resolve your own ego-blocked flow of love, releasing a radiant stream of forgiveness and compassion, then you can look upon the other person with a view that says, “I know that you are not really aware of what you have done to me or even what you are doing to yourself. I bless you and see you in a flow of love that may provide a whole new kind of environment where you can relax your hostility and unblock your own frustrated flow of love… ” or something along those lines.
You may ask, what if this doesn’t work for you, well that does not mean you engage in self-destructive bitterness or anger or worry or fear. To get along in the world or with the world, you must stay in the flow of life. Sometimes the best way to get along with people is to get along without them. Let go…and walk on…
Paraphrased from “The Art of Getting Along” by Eric Butterworth
Stop wearing the masks, stop defining yourself to everyone and especially yourself and stop letting others define you. You will actually start living the minute you stop doing that. Too many of us spend our lives living the way others think we should live/be. It is very tiring because everybody has their own opinion of how you should live/be. So to please these people you have to keep changing the masks.
Don’t get hung up on how people define you because when they define you, they are limiting themselves and that is their problem, not yours. But if you accept their definition of you then you are limiting yourself. So when you are interacting with others, take off the masks or don’t put on any, stop the role playing and be your true authentic self. When we wear masks and play roles we are saying who we are, is not good enough!
Today let’s take of the masks, stop playing the roles, let our true selves shine! Be your authentic self!