People have a way of bulling their way through things, believing that bullying is a sign of confidence. Actually it is a glaring sign of lack of confidence.
If one is confident, there is no need to be forceful in getting your point across. There is no need to be defensive if you are confident.
How many of us can say we are truly confident? Does a little criticism throw you for a loop? Do you seek validation about your decision(s) even though you are “sure”? These are some signs of lack or less than true confidence.
To have true confidence, one has to BELIEVE in ones self.
How much do you believe in yourself?
In Physics, they talk about potential energy, this energy is known as “stored energy”, this energy is the potential to do work. We are all filled with potential energy and most of it is in the form of thoughts and ideas. So we just filled with all this potential energy and then what?
There is another form of energy in physics that we can use, it is called Kinetic Energy. This is otherwise known as the Energy of Motion.
We need to convert our potential energy into kinetic energy, in short we need to put our thoughts/ideas into action. One of the major things that stop the conversion is our expectations and our expectations affect our outcomes. If you expect to be disappointed (and most of us do) you usually are. You see, in that mode you look for the disappoints, so it is almost impossible to see the rewards. Oh, I hear some of you saying but I had expectations of rewards and was still disappointed. Really?! I think if you are really honest with yourself and look deep within you would find that there was a part of you expecting disappointment. So change your expectations, believe that there will be rewards, look for the rewards, don’t focus the disappointments.
So let’s change our outlook/expectations and get the conversion started. Execute those ideas and be ready for the rewards.
Let’s go and convert our potential energy to kinetic energy!
Ever hear the saying, “The worse best thing that ever happened to me!”?
We all have experiences where it feels like the ground underneath our feet has opened up and the world swallowed us whole. We not only lost our footing but our entire foundation crumbled around us. It may take the form of a death, an illness, loss of a relationship or job. Or it may be as ambiguous as the loss of a dream, our innocence or an ideal. Whatever it may be, in these times we make decisions that sometimes make life feel….different and it is not usually warm and fuzzy. Let’s now think about those situations, and I ask you, would you have made the same decisions with same knowledge you had then? I guarantee that you would!
The decisions you made were based on what you knew then and we may see it as a mistake or a result of our faulty thinking. But when we shift into gratitude mode, we shift our perception and make room for the possibility that the darkness may contain the very light we were looking for. If we face the darkness with gratitude, our eyes adjust and we notice things that were hidden in the light. We discover nuances about our strengths, our abilities, and ourselves that were concealed before. Because the darkness requires us to slow down and become more focused, we discover what is important. We get down to the absolute necessities and come to discover that we have more than enough. We discover what true contentment is and what we really value. And we discover a depth to life and a Presence that we never knew before.
What is your best worse thing? When you look back on your life or at even your current situation, can you choose gratitude in this moment? Gratitude is a choice we can make at any point along the way. It is a decision to ignite the darkness with your light and to live life fully and completely in all circumstance. Now, choose gratitude, and give thanks for everything!
Stop wearing the masks, stop defining yourself to everyone and especially yourself and stop letting others define you. You will actually start living the minute you stop doing that. Too many of us spend our lives living the way others think we should live/be. It is very tiring because everybody has their own opinion of how you should live/be. So to please these people you have to keep changing the masks.
Don’t get hung up on how people define you because when they define you, they are limiting themselves and that is their problem, not yours. But if you accept their definition of you then you are limiting yourself. So when you are interacting with others, take off the masks or don’t put on any, stop the role playing and be your true authentic self. When we wear masks and play roles we are saying who we are, is not good enough!
Today let’s take of the masks, stop playing the roles, let our true selves shine! Be your authentic self!