Stop Limiting Yourself

Limiting yourself so others won’t feel bad about their lives & choices is an excuse. How dare you be less than your very best?– Paula Renaye, Hardline Self Help Tweet-able Tough Love Quotes Diomo Books.

Many of us put limitations on ourselves because we don’t want to seem as if we are bragging. We down play ourselves because we are told that society doesn’t like a show-off. We hide our talent.

Now there is a big difference between showing–off and letting your genius shine.

Showing-off is telling everyone how good you are or letting everyone know that you are great at what you do by pointing it out every chance you get. While letting your genius shine is just being your authentic self, by doing so, whatever it is you are good at will show (no flashing lights necessary).

If you are good at something, why should you not show it, just because others will feel inadequate? Their feelings are exactly that….THEIRS! Not YOURS!

So stop limiting yourself and let your genius shine, you are limitless!

“No one can ever be more by your being less.” – Paula Renaye, Hardline Self Help Tweet-able Tough Love Quotes. Diomo Books.

Tell The TRUTH!

Here is some food for thought:

According to an ancient Hindu teaching, if you can only speak the truth and tell no lies—either miniscule or outrageous—for 12 consecutive years, you can attain enlightenment. I guess many of you are saying “oh well I guess I will never be enlightened” ha, ha.

But seriously, most of us perceive ourselves to be honest and forthright, never intentionally lying, but most of us have been taught through life’s experience to mask our true thoughts, pad our words, or simply avoid a response. We attempt to convince ourselves that a “little white lie” doesn’t matter.

The spiritual truth is: Everything matters.

Many people, however, are unclear as to what the truth is, because they haven’t told the truth to themselves for so long that they no longer recognize what the truth is. They say it doesn’t matter, when it does; convincing themselves that no one will notice or everyone cheats just a little. All such justifications are negative, even inferior, thoughts and behaviors.
A spiritual principle known to always be true is: The truth will always emerge. And when you tell the truth, there is a whole lot less to remember. 🙂

A noble being will always tell the truth. Do you? Begin now with the first step of simply noticing if you do tell the truth immediately, or if your first instinct is to pad or alter the facts a bit.

If you notice you are regularly withholding the complete truth, resolve today to be honest especially with yourself. Know it is safe to be truthful. Like many lifestyle changes, resolve to tell the truth one day at a time.

Hey, I never said it was easy but look at it this way after 4,383 days you just may become enlightened.

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We need enemies!

Sounds weird, huh? But we do need enemies. They serve us well, especially by keeping us alert to whatever weak spots in our character that may provide an opening for them to damage us.

Enemies will look to find your flaws and highlight them (be it though for their own gain).

Friends (all well meaning) would not do that, they would consider your feelings (God bless them) but that will not help you to fix the flaws. You cannot fix what you don’t know!

So welcome your enemies with open arms, they are the ones will help you improve and grow! Bless your enemies today!

Defeat

Defeat is a destructive force only when it is accepted as failure. If it is accepted as teaching some needed lesson, it will always be a blessing. (There is no such word as failure, for the person who perseveres).

We have to let you go

There was a cartoon showing a tomato stalk with several tomatoes growing on it, at various stages of development. One tomato got large and ripe. The tomato stalk says to the ripe tomato, “We have to let you go.” The title of the cartoon was Layoffs at the Plant.

The profound nature of the cartoon is that the large tomato is ripe to be picked. Of course the plant has to let it go because it has no further purpose on the stalk. If it stays, it will rot and die. If it leaves, it will serve its next purpose.

The cartoon is a fabulous metaphor for why and when we need to be let go from a job, relationship, living situation, or any station of life. Life is not cruelly kicking you out of a place you still need to be. It is moving you on to where you really need to be for your joy and the gifts you can offer. You may think you are being cast aside, unfairly treated, or victimized, but there is a far bigger plan unfolding than meets the eye. You have completed your purpose where you have been, and your journey is about to reveal a new vista. That’s why we have to let you go. The “we” is not your boss or your lover. It is the wise and loving collective Universe.

When it’s time to let something go, the Universe will let you know. If you get laid off or your landlord sells the house or your lover leaves, worry not. There is a reason for the change, and something better is in store. The more energy you spend complaining or resisting the change, the harder your transition will be, and the longer it will take your next good to show up. Define the current change as good and helpful, and your next rewarding position will appear more quickly, easily and naturally. … To think there is only one moment of good for you in your life, and when it’s gone, it’s gone, is to see the universe through incredibly narrow blinders. Life is more like a square dance or a Sufi dance where you enjoy one connection for a while, and then you move on to another great one. … Sure, there are layoffs at the plant. But the plant of life has roots that spread far beyond the stem the eyes can see.

Paraphrased from We Have to Let You Go by Alan Cohen

Inner Compass

Pain means you are going off course,

Joy means  you are on course.

These are the needles on your inner compass!

Normally when a part of your body hurts, you usually stop what ever is causing the pain and/or remove the source of the pain, don’t you? And anything that is pleasurable we usually keep on doing it.

Well, same goes for your life.

If you are currently doing something or in something that is causing you pain, i.e. it is not bringing you joy, that is your inner compass warning you that you are off course.

So listen to your inner compass (your instincts) and let it point you to your joy and away from the pain!

Just Be YOU!

Here’s something we need to remember:

Be yourself, your authentic self, no matter the circumstance or situation. The more you try to protect, defend, prove, or explain yourself, the farther you drift from authentic confidence, in short, the less “you” you become.  If someone does not want to accept you, no sales job is sufficient, and if someone accepts you, no sales job is necessary. Likewise, if someone wants to keep you guilty, no apology is acceptable, and if someone is willing to love you, no apology is necessary.

Just be YOU!

PS. No apology necessary, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t 🙂

Harmonious Relationships

“When two or more persons ally themselves in any undertaking, in a spirit of harmony and understanding, each person in the alliance thereby multiplies his own powers of achievement. Nowhere is this principle more evidenced than it is in an industry or business in which there is perfect team-work between the employer and the employees. Wherever you find this team-work you find prosperity and goodwill on both sides.”

Hill, Napolean. The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons.

Profound words, Napolean Hill may have used it in terms of business, but it is clear that it is true in every single relationship that you have, had or will ever have. The second a relationship stops being harmonious and misunderstanding shows up , is the very second that relationship starts heading toward to failure-ville.

It is with this in mind that we should seek to be in harmonious relationships and remove ourselves from those that aren’t. If there is not true alliance, the relationship WILL NOT work, no matter how you pretend! Let go of relationships that aren’t working, and I do mean ALL relationships that aren’t working.  No matter who the relationship is with, let it go if it is not harmonious.  It may not be easy to do but if you want to be successful at anything, you need harmonious relationships.

Relationships that are not built in or on harmony saps each participants energy.

So take a look at all your relationships, which of them aren’t harmonious and you need to let go of? The very second you identify them, start shedding them!

This will open up room for the harmonious ones, which will then help you in your achievements!

Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC, CWLC

Eliminate “Impossible”

Let’s resolve today to eliminate the word “impossible” from our vocabulary.  Nothing is impossible and we have seen it proven time and time again. There was a time when flying was “impossible” and now it is common place. All you have to do is believe and it will be possible. Like in the movie “Field of Dreams”, build it and they will come, well, believe it and it will be possible.

Your faith, especially in yourself, and working with this faith, you can achieve anything, hands down! No holds barred!

So do away with impossible, it no longer exists!  All things are POSSIBLE!

You’ve got to accentuate the positive

You’ve got to accentuate the positive

Eliminate the negative

And latch on to the affirmative

Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum

Bring gloom down to the minimum

Have faith or pandemonium’s

Liable to walk upon the scene

Excerpt from a song : AC-CENT-TCHU-ATE THE POSITIVE lyrics by Johnny Mercer

Click to listen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUdFIPknB_Y&feature=related

I love this song! Words to live by.

Too many times we do the opposite, we spend time focusing on the negative, which gets us absolutely nowhere, but stuck right where we are.

No matter how challenging a situation may seem, take the time to find the good in it. Like the song says ” Have faith or pandemonium’s liable to walk upon the scene”.

So let’s stop today, regroup and focus on the positives in our lives and see how we feel. I can guarantee it will be a much more joy-filled day than if we did the opposite. And remember “Don’t mess with Mister In-Between”.

Have yourselves a positively, affirmative day!

Josyanne Chambers, MSc, CPC, CWLC

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