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Friends

We have a habit of not taking people as they are but rather as they fit or don’t fit of our standards and expectations. Then we either reject them outright or we try to change them or make them over to suit our concept of what we think they should be. This gives rise to the a warped idea of “making friends”. Normally people think a friend is one who agrees with you or one who you have converted to your way, and the friendship lasts as long as he or she remains converted. But in truth, you cannot make a friend, you can only accept a friend.

First, no matter who the person may be, accept him or her as a person. The person may not be like you and may not like you. Let him or her be! You may not agree with the standards by which the person lives and works. But they are not necessarily wrong because they are different. Be willing to accept that he or she is in the flow of the creative process within. By so doing, you will stay in the awareness of the flow expressing in you and as you.

Second you need to resolve your own ego-blocked flow of love, releasing a radiant stream of forgiveness  and compassion, then you can look upon the other person with a view that says, “I know that you are not really aware of what you have done to me or even what you are doing to yourself. I bless you and see you in a flow of love that may provide a whole new kind of environment where you can relax your hostility and unblock your own frustrated flow of love… ” or something along those lines.

You may ask, what if this doesn’t work for you, well that does not mean you engage in self-destructive bitterness or anger or worry or fear. To get along in the world or with the world, you must stay in the flow of life. Sometimes the best way to get along with people is to get along without them. Let go…and walk on…

Paraphrased from “The Art of Getting Along” by Eric Butterworth

 

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Your Authentic Self

Stop wearing the masks, stop defining yourself to everyone and especially yourself and stop letting others define you. You will actually start living the minute you stop doing that. Too many of us spend our lives living the way others think we should live/be. It is very tiring because everybody has their own opinion of how you should live/be. So to please these people you have to keep changing the masks.

Don’t get hung up on how people define you because when they define you, they are limiting themselves and that is their problem, not yours. But if you accept their definition of you then you are limiting yourself. So when you are interacting with others, take off the masks or don’t put on any, stop the role playing and be your true authentic self. When we wear masks and play roles we are saying who we are, is not good enough!

Today let’s take of the masks, stop playing the roles, let our true selves shine! Be your authentic self!

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Think Positive!

Any idea that is deliberately fixed in the mind, or any idea that is permitted to set itself up in the mind, as the result of suggestion, environment, the influence of associates, etc., is sure to cause us to indulge in acts which conform to the nature of the idea.

——– Hill, Napolean. The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons

In other words,  law of attraction. Whatsoever you focus on multiplies, is what I always say. So whatever you are in the habit of thinking and talking about with materialize in different ways, shape and/or form.

So let us form the habit of thinking and talking about that which is positive and beneficial to us. For instance, instead of thinking and speaking lack and poverty, let us focus on prosperity and abundance, and very soon evidence of these things will manifest themselves in the form of new and unexpected opportunities.

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Change for you

It is natural when you have made changes in your life, which helped you, that you would want your partner to do the same. You should never try to force others to change; leave them. Let them change naturally and orderly because they want to; and they will want to when they see that your change was worthwhile.

So change for you, change because you see the need and want to. Don’t ever change for someone else, that kind change will never last. Understand that when you make changes in your life, you will be  inspiration to others. Some may follow right away, some may take a while, and some may never but that isn’t your concern. Your concern is how your changes affect you.

“To inspire in others a desire to change for the better is truly noble; but this you can do only by leaving them alone, and becoming more noble yourself.” —–Christian D. Larson, “Mastery of Self”

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8 tips to boost your self-esteem

Here are eight tips to help boost your Self-esteem:

1. Make a self-appreciation list

Write a list of at least five (5) of your top qualities, the more the merrier. I know some of you can find millions of ways to criticize yourselves, so I want you to take the time to look for the good in you. These things make you unique. Carry the list around with you every day and read them to remind yourself what makes you special.

2. Make a list of past successes

Think about the times in your life when you have been successful at something, no matter if it seems insignificant. Write a list of all of these and remind yourself how you did them and how great it felt when you achieved your goals. Use these experiences to fuel your self-belief and confidence for achieving your goals in the future.

3. Don’t put yourself down

Take the time to tally how many times you speak negatively about yourself. This will help to ensure that you become aware of how many times a day you are telling people or yourself that you aren’t good enough or any good. This is a real eye-opener! Try it! It will help to reduce the frequency of negative dialogue.

4. Choose positive role models

We can help ourselves by looking at others in a constructive and positive way rather than negatively comparing ourselves with them. Look at others with a glowing self-confidence and notice their characteristics. Pick up words and body language that they use and add them to your own repertoire.

5. Accept compliments

Being able to accept, believe, and feel good about compliments is crucial to cultivating a high level of self-confidence. The best way to accept compliments is to look the person in the face, smile and say ‘thank-you’. This will in turn also make them feel good. Looking embarrassed or looking down at your feet and feeling uncomfortable will also make the person giving the compliment uncomfortable – no-one wins in that situation!

6. Positive affirmations

Using positive affirmations every day is really effective as you’re talking to your subconscious where all your negative thoughts are stored. Pick three strong statements, which literally make a negative self-belief into a positive one. For example, if you believe you’re not a confident person then ‘I am a confident person’ should be one of your daily positive affirmations. Say your positive affirmations out loud while looking in the mirror as this makes them stronger because you’re connecting with yourself.

7. Constructive self-talk

We all have an irrational and rational voice. Use constructive questioning on yourself to ensure the irrational voice gets less airtime than the rational voice. Keep practicing this, as it will give you an overwhelming sense of control over your negative inner voice, which is invaluable in many situations in life.

8. Take care of yourself

Take time out to nurture yourself. Eat well and drink less alcohol. Go to sleep early and exercise. Take breaks. This indicates to yourself that you are worthy of being cared for. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself and to be taken care of!

Use the eight tips and your self-esteem will skyrocket!

—–Adapted

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You cannot hit a target you never set

I was in the airport the other day and saw this slogan: You cannot hit a target you never set. And it hit me (no pun intended) that how true this is about our goals.

In a previous post Commit I wrote about setting and committing to achieving goals. You have to plan the work and then work then plan. But first, let your goals be yours! Not what others approve of or how it looks, let it be solely yours. Do it because it makes you feel good! Do it because it is what you are passionate about.

Targets/goals that are not based on you but some outside influence (such as how it looks to others) can be achieved but fulfillment are short-lived if it comes at all.

You can accomplish whatsoever you put your mind and heart to, because you have the Power within you. When you are divinely inspired, you will find strength and resolve to hit your target.

Let us now set our targets, take our bows and aim those arrows, pull back and then let them fly!

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Success

“SUCCESS REQUIRES NO APOLOGIES, FAILURE PERMITS NO ALIBIS.”

If the thing you wish to do is right, and you believe in it, go ahead and do it!

Put your dream across, and never mind what “they” say if you meet with temporary defeat, for “they,” perhaps, do not know that EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.

HILL, NAPOLEON. Think and Grow Rich (p. 27). White Dog Publishing. Kindle Edition.

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Don’t Be Afraid of New Ideas

We should make it a habit to exercise our minds, just same way we make it a habit to exercise our bodies (at least some of us try to). We should make it a habit to gather new ideas from sources other than our daily environment. The mind becomes withered, stagnant, narrow and closed unless it searches for new ideas.

For example, a farmer should go to the city often, and walk among the strange faces and the tall buildings. He will go back to his farm, his mind refreshed, with more courage and greater enthusiasm while a city man should take a trip to the country every so often and freshen his mind with sights new and different from those associated with his daily labors.

Everyone needs a change of mental environment at regular periods, the same as a change and variety of foods are essential. The mind becomes more alert, more elastic and more ready to work with speed and accuracy after it has been bathed in new ideas, outside of one’s own field of daily labor.

You should temporarily lay aside the set of ideas with which you perform your daily labors, and enter a field of entirely new (some even unheard-of) ideas. The outcome will be a new stock of ideas which will make you more efficient, more enthusiastic and more courageous, no matter what sort of work you may be engaged.

Do not be afraid of new ideas! They may just be the difference between success and failure.

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Happy Leap Day!

Ok, so we got an extra day this year, what are we going to do with it? Maybe one of our questions to finding out what to do with it, is to ask  “Do you like where you are?”

If we don’t like where we are, does that mean we’re condemned to stay there? Are we also condemned to constantly do penance for where we are? As we mentioned before in a previous blog: Absolutely not. …

Often what keeps us stuck and continually doing penance is the very feeling that we must pay for our lack of action. We become caught in a circle of self-blame, condemn ourselves, feel hopeless, and feed the fire—or slow burn—by reciting like a mantra our history of inertia and self-judged wrong choices. Well, let’s use this extra day to break that dead-end cycle of waste and regret.

On this leap day let’s to stop the incessant self-judgments and accept ourselves on a new basis—to accept that every moment of our lives has been part of an all-encompassing Purpose, and that this Purpose proceeds by divine order.

When you acknowledge the workings of divine order, you see your life not as a consummate failure but as an evolving, orderly progression. Even though we may not see the purpose of each event, meeting or happening at a given moment, each piece fits.

Become freer from the self-defeating thoughts and labels that have kept you down. You’ll start to shed your old habits of negating yourself and ease gently into the splendid clothes of deserving. In these new clothes, which are much more than zipper-deep, you’ll begin to blossom and develop your talents and abilities, as you’ve always secretly known you could.

Let’s now use this extra day and LEAP into new thought patterns and splendid clothes of deserving!

Happy Leap Day!

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Procrastination

Let’s talk about procrastination. This is something we all are guilty of from time to time (some more than others!). It is commonly referred to as “the thief of time”, but is is it really? Or is it just the excuse we use to stall or not do something? Some of us go as far as cloaking it is the guise of “getting ready”. Yeah, you know that thing we call preparation.

Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with preparation, the problem arises when we are stuck in constant preparation mode! This is when we are always “preparing” to the do or get something.

We need to stop and assess and identify when the preparation is becoming or has become a procrastination strategy. This strategy is when we tell ourselves that we need to “prepare” for whatever our goals are, and we put off fulfilling  the goals because we are “preparing”. It is really a stalling tactic, a con game, and we don’t make a move because we feel we are not fully prepared or we are not ready yet.

We have to “stop the coming and come already“. We need to stop procrastinating, stop the preparing and get to it. Stop making a career out of just laying the foundation, get a move on and start building on the foundation.